Two things I'd like to respond to: when you meet people for the first time, there's always an element of lying present. It's called politeness ^_^ Just because we humans tend to judge people in the first 5ms we develop a public persona that might not match our private one. It takes time to become good friends.
LOL! I want andpuff to comment on your comment about meeting people for the first time and politeness. And me <wry g>. It depends on how over-focused I am at the time; I'm not notorious for my levels of social politeness. I think omitting information about yourself when you first meet anyone is not the same as lying. I would not, for instance, nod politely while some witless, offensive person to whom I had just been introduced gave me the low down on why birth control was Evil.
Well, unless they were 80.
The biggest problem is that the Internet is a written forum, so your words remain a lot longer than a conversation. Sometimes you change your mind, sometime you wonder what you were thinking, ten years down the line. It's--ironically--the permanence of the medium that sometimes makes me choose anonymity.
This is an interesting take on things. It's not one I would choose -- but I wouldn't; I've published work ten+ years ago that I don't think stands up to the best I could do now.
Why doesn't this bother me in the same way? Because publishing is an act that's public.
And speaking in a public forum is, likewise, an act that's public. I consider them the same thing, really. If I do change, I'm likely to acknowledge that I have, and if I'm all over the place, the change of opinion, etc., is likely to be noted. If age and wisdom are seen as hypocrisy, I'll probably laugh at someone <g>.
(Never for reviews: if you have an opinion on someone work, you should stand behind it.) But if I am "shooting the shit," or exploring a thought with a few other people, I prefer anonymity. My opinion is unformed, or uninformed, and I don't want that the influence other people's view of me.
This is sort of interesting as well; does it mean that you only want them to be influenced by definite views? Or that you don't want to be associated with the questions, or with having them?
I'm obviously here as me. I'm generally anywhere as me; I ask a lot of questions, and occasionally, cause offense; I don't have opinions on everything, and some of the opinions I do have will change -- that's being human. I assume that my words will be archived somewhere, by someone, and if they aren't, that's what I have my sister for; she'll remember all the embarrassing things I've ever said <g>.
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Date: 2004-10-26 03:29 pm (UTC)LOL! I want
Well, unless they were 80.
The biggest problem is that the Internet is a written forum, so your words remain a lot longer than a conversation. Sometimes you change your mind, sometime you wonder what you were thinking, ten years down the line. It's--ironically--the permanence of the medium that sometimes makes me choose anonymity.
This is an interesting take on things. It's not one I would choose -- but I wouldn't; I've published work ten+ years ago that I don't think stands up to the best I could do now.
Why doesn't this bother me in the same way? Because publishing is an act that's public.
And speaking in a public forum is, likewise, an act that's public. I consider them the same thing, really. If I do change, I'm likely to acknowledge that I have, and if I'm all over the place, the change of opinion, etc., is likely to be noted. If age and wisdom are seen as hypocrisy, I'll probably laugh at someone <g>.
(Never for reviews: if you have an opinion on someone work, you should stand behind it.) But if I am "shooting the shit," or exploring a thought with a few other people, I prefer anonymity. My opinion is unformed, or uninformed, and I don't want that the influence other people's view of me.
This is sort of interesting as well; does it mean that you only want them to be influenced by definite views? Or that you don't want to be associated with the questions, or with having them?
I'm obviously here as me. I'm generally anywhere as me; I ask a lot of questions, and occasionally, cause offense; I don't have opinions on everything, and some of the opinions I do have will change -- that's being human. I assume that my words will be archived somewhere, by someone, and if they aren't, that's what I have my sister for; she'll remember all the embarrassing things I've ever said <g>.