Self-conscious denotes nervous -- to me -- and I wouldn't say that I'm more nervous, only more certain that I'm unlikely to come across clearly unless I work at it, smoothing out some of the edges and making things more clear than I might otherwise do in person.
It's not about being liked, for instance; if someone dislikes what I say, they dislike it, and I'm not about to change my opinion or statement in order to gain a stranger's acceptance, since I'm unlikely to do that even for a friend; it's more about being disliked for what I actually said, or meant to say.
I'm more careful that what I say is what I meant to say when I'm online -- because I don't get that instant "do you have a brain?" reaction online that I'd get offline; there's no instant chance to correct myself. Also, I know I talk quickly -- which I know is bad :/. This is automatically corrected for online. It's the sum of little things, not all of which I'm aware of, but some of which I am, which make me certain that if you've only met me online, you probably expect something different when you meet me in person.
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Date: 2004-12-15 04:32 pm (UTC)Self-conscious denotes nervous -- to me -- and I wouldn't say that I'm more nervous, only more certain that I'm unlikely to come across clearly unless I work at it, smoothing out some of the edges and making things more clear than I might otherwise do in person.
It's not about being liked, for instance; if someone dislikes what I say, they dislike it, and I'm not about to change my opinion or statement in order to gain a stranger's acceptance, since I'm unlikely to do that even for a friend; it's more about being disliked for what I actually said, or meant to say.
I'm more careful that what I say is what I meant to say when I'm online -- because I don't get that instant "do you have a brain?" reaction online that I'd get offline; there's no instant chance to correct myself. Also, I know I talk quickly -- which I know is bad :/. This is automatically corrected for online. It's the sum of little things, not all of which I'm aware of, but some of which I am, which make me certain that if you've only met me online, you probably expect something different when you meet me in person.