A lot of what you wrote above could go for me as well. My approach to love and relationships has changed over the years, but for me it wasn't always gradual. I have redefined it a number of times as a reaction to anger, or betrayal, or disappointment, even despair. When I was sixteen I was convinced there was no such thing as love, just lust. Much of what I'd seen led me there.
Experience reshaped my views in both jerks and jiggles; sometime, oh, fifteen years ago I realized I fall in love polyamorously--gender doesn't matter, age, or much else, but these relationships outside of my primary one are all non-sexual--and they are all totally without boundary. Thus I love to see those I love in love with someone else, because the love radiates outward. It's been that way all my life, but it took me very long to recognize it, and the realization was enormously freeing. There is no place for possession or jealousy. Love is.
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Date: 2004-07-04 06:03 am (UTC)Experience reshaped my views in both jerks and jiggles; sometime, oh, fifteen years ago I realized I fall in love polyamorously--gender doesn't matter, age, or much else, but these relationships outside of my primary one are all non-sexual--and they are all totally without boundary. Thus I love to see those I love in love with someone else, because the love radiates outward. It's been that way all my life, but it took me very long to recognize it, and the realization was enormously freeing. There is no place for possession or jealousy. Love is.