I have big *icky* issues with the worldview of "settling" / "don't settle". How many people tell themselves they're waiting for The Big One, when they're really "settling" for indefinite solitary waiting?
Yes, I'm describing my own problems. (Whose else would I describe?) It's cheap, emotionally safe, and I have lots of practice distracting myself from the fact that I don't like it.
I think you're one of the few men I've seen say much about settling at all, even as defensive cover. But, ummm, is there anything wrong with just saying that you're happy being single (as defensive cover?)
I know people who are happy living alone, fwiw; they love their friends, but don't really want to live with them because it's also a lot of work to live with someone else.
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Date: 2008-03-06 12:18 pm (UTC)Yes, I'm describing my own problems. (Whose else would I describe?) It's cheap, emotionally safe, and I have lots of practice distracting myself from the fact that I don't like it.
I think you're one of the few men I've seen say much about settling at all, even as defensive cover. But, ummm, is there anything wrong with just saying that you're happy being single (as defensive cover?)
I know people who are happy living alone, fwiw; they love their friends, but don't really want to live with them because it's also a lot of work to live with someone else.