This dynamic comes down to a "women are selling it, men are buying it" arrangement. Looked at that way, women want to command the best price, but if the offers are few, they'll "settle" for a lower bid. Men, conversely, are looking for the best bargain and consequently might feel they've "settled" for the cheaper item, when they might have been able to afford better.
But all this more or less requires that people be selling/shopping in the first place. I think women more often feel they've "settled" because many women feel pressure to find a husband and start having babies. They don't care who they marry--they just need to marry someone! When the pressure gets high, the seller will take whatever price she can get.
I think the original article correctly identified that common phenomenon. However, the author assumes that (a) this feeling is universal, and (b) it is right and should be encouraged rather than thoughtfully addressed.
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Re: traditionally
Date: 2008-03-13 03:49 pm (UTC)This dynamic comes down to a "women are selling it, men are buying it" arrangement. Looked at that way, women want to command the best price, but if the offers are few, they'll "settle" for a lower bid. Men, conversely, are looking for the best bargain and consequently might feel they've "settled" for the cheaper item, when they might have been able to afford better.
But all this more or less requires that people be selling/shopping in the first place. I think women more often feel they've "settled" because many women feel pressure to find a husband and start having babies. They don't care who they marry--they just need to marry someone! When the pressure gets high, the seller will take whatever price she can get.
I think the original article correctly identified that common phenomenon. However, the author assumes that (a) this feeling is universal, and (b) it is right and should be encouraged rather than thoughtfully addressed.