Traditionally, men chase women. Not every guy chases the ideal 19-year-old supermodel with a PhD, but they do go after the women they think they can get. That's the male equivalent of "settling."
As for talking about relationship problems, I know friends who have done it, but it has to be *very* serious to go there. We talk about problems, but if it's a problem with our spouse, it'd be a betrayal of our relationship.
That's what annoyed me about Gottlieb, honestly. She treated her friends, who just needed to vent about the usual everyday annoyances that come from living with someone for years, as if they'd "settled." Has she never had a relationship? Even the best of them, between Mr. and Ms. Right For Each Other, have stresses and points of conflict. Sometimes people need to vent safely to their friends.
But Gottlieb reacted with "Send him to me if you don't want him!" and didn't seem to understand why her married friends were giving her That Look.
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Date: 2008-03-13 05:56 pm (UTC)As for talking about relationship problems, I know friends who have done it, but it has to be *very* serious to go there. We talk about problems, but if it's a problem with our spouse, it'd be a betrayal of our relationship.
That's what annoyed me about Gottlieb, honestly. She treated her friends, who just needed to vent about the usual everyday annoyances that come from living with someone for years, as if they'd "settled." Has she never had a relationship? Even the best of them, between Mr. and Ms. Right For Each Other, have stresses and points of conflict. Sometimes people need to vent safely to their friends.
But Gottlieb reacted with "Send him to me if you don't want him!" and didn't seem to understand why her married friends were giving her That Look.
Clueless.