As for talking about relationship problems, I know friends who have done it, but it has to be *very* serious to go there. We talk about problems, but if it's a problem with our spouse, it'd be a betrayal of our relationship.
This I definitely have seen, and now that you mention it, I do think it skews slightly by gender. There are other factors as well -- but there's less reticence, I think, among my female friends over the small details (i.e. My Husband who Forgot to take out the Garbage.)
That's what annoyed me about Gottlieb, honestly. She treated her friends, who just needed to vent about the usual everyday annoyances that come from living with someone for years, as if they'd "settled." Has she never had a relationship? Even the best of them, between Mr. and Ms. Right For Each Other, have stresses and points of conflict. Sometimes people need to vent safely to their friends.
I have to think a little bit about this, because you're absolutely right, but that's not what I took out of the article.
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Date: 2008-03-13 07:07 pm (UTC)This I definitely have seen, and now that you mention it, I do think it skews slightly by gender. There are other factors as well -- but there's less reticence, I think, among my female friends over the small details (i.e. My Husband who Forgot to take out the Garbage.)
That's what annoyed me about Gottlieb, honestly. She treated her friends, who just needed to vent about the usual everyday annoyances that come from living with someone for years, as if they'd "settled." Has she never had a relationship? Even the best of them, between Mr. and Ms. Right For Each Other, have stresses and points of conflict. Sometimes people need to vent safely to their friends.
I have to think a little bit about this, because you're absolutely right, but that's not what I took out of the article.