And yet...imagine a situation where you're having a gathering of friends. One of your closest friends, someone you'd certainly want there, happens to have other plans that night. Do you invite them anyway?
I tend to phone and invite because I don't think I'm asking them to do something for me, and therefore the guilt levels would not be high on either side; if it's a gathering of a group of friends, the emphasis in that case would never be on me.
But this would be friendship and not imposition, and I see the two as different.
And now that I re-read that, I'm not sure it actually makes sense. But there you are.
I think I understand what you were trying to say. Sort of. I think you're viewing the imposition of forcing me to say no as one that applies to any social interaction, and while that's perfectly acceptable as a textual analysis, was not entirely what I meant.
But in this case, I wanted to make it clear that "we should be allowed to freely ask" a stranger if we can touch their breasts because "they can always say no" only works if no is not a social burden.
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Date: 2008-04-22 07:47 pm (UTC)I tend to phone and invite because I don't think I'm asking them to do something for me, and therefore the guilt levels would not be high on either side; if it's a gathering of a group of friends, the emphasis in that case would never be on me.
But this would be friendship and not imposition, and I see the two as different.
And now that I re-read that, I'm not sure it actually makes sense. But there you are.
I think I understand what you were trying to say. Sort of. I think you're viewing the imposition of forcing me to say no as one that applies to any social interaction, and while that's perfectly acceptable as a textual analysis, was not entirely what I meant.
But in this case, I wanted to make it clear that "we should be allowed to freely ask" a stranger if we can touch their breasts because "they can always say no" only works if no is not a social burden.