Sorry. That was incoherent. The pressure of the word no is something I've had a difficult time articulating and explaining for a very long time—it seemed so self-evident to me, and yet it's something that causes so many problems.
It was perfectly coherent the first time :). The challenge of living in any multi-cultural society is evident in the way we respond to things like this, because people from a different background (and this is generational as well as cultural, to make things harder) respond in different ways to the same things, so anything tricky has to be translated from context -- yours and theirs.
The idea that No is free is rational and logical.
The last time I lived with people who were entirely rational and logical on a consistent basis? Was never. People are people. They are always going to have emotional reactions because they are emotional. The level of rationality vs. emotional that anyone can tolerate is entirely individual; I tend to process on the higher side of rational than some people like, but I would never, ever claim to be unemotional.
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Date: 2008-04-22 09:02 pm (UTC)It was perfectly coherent the first time :). The challenge of living in any multi-cultural society is evident in the way we respond to things like this, because people from a different background (and this is generational as well as cultural, to make things harder) respond in different ways to the same things, so anything tricky has to be translated from context -- yours and theirs.
The idea that No is free is rational and logical.
The last time I lived with people who were entirely rational and logical on a consistent basis? Was never. People are people. They are always going to have emotional reactions because they are emotional. The level of rationality vs. emotional that anyone can tolerate is entirely individual; I tend to process on the higher side of rational than some people like, but I would never, ever claim to be unemotional.