The pressure to "Be a sport" can be just as strong as the desire not to hurt someone with your refusal. :(
Yeah, me too. There are social circumstances now in which I would be extremely uncomfortable wearing a button that might as well say 'hi, I'm an angry and un-fun prude!', and that was way more true when I was younger.
And if I wound up wearing the "Yes, you can ask" button, the chances of my actually saying 'no' would drop like a rock, even if I wanted to, even if the asker skeeved me out, because I've been so conditioned to never make anyone feel bad, and to be obliging and agreeable.
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Date: 2008-04-22 09:54 pm (UTC)Yeah, me too. There are social circumstances now in which I would be extremely uncomfortable wearing a button that might as well say 'hi, I'm an angry and un-fun prude!', and that was way more true when I was younger.
And if I wound up wearing the "Yes, you can ask" button, the chances of my actually saying 'no' would drop like a rock, even if I wanted to, even if the asker skeeved me out, because I've been so conditioned to never make anyone feel bad, and to be obliging and agreeable.
It's scary.