I agree. I am one of those people who hates to say no, and yet it keeps coming up. I do whatever I can to avoid saying no, which means I've somehow managed to develop a whole host of ways around it. I think this was largely because even if I did say no, the person I was saying it to wouldn't accept it. (Not so much in sexual situations, thank God, but in other social contexts.) My best friends before I moved (and to this day, but they can't exactly invite me out on Friday night now that I'm not living there anymore) were terrible about doing this, which means I developed a host of knee-jerk reactions to questions like "Want to hang out?" that would be seen as reasonable excuses so that I wouldn't have to actually say no.
And yeah, I don't ask for things either. But I've honed hinting to a fine art, to the point where I generally don't have to outright ask for things from people who know me reasonably well anymore.
That said, I've gotten a lot better at saying no to the jerks in pickup trucks who stop me when I'm walking down the street to ask if they can give me a ride.
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Date: 2008-04-23 01:21 am (UTC)And yeah, I don't ask for things either. But I've honed hinting to a fine art, to the point where I generally don't have to outright ask for things from people who know me reasonably well anymore.
That said, I've gotten a lot better at saying no to the jerks in pickup trucks who stop me when I'm walking down the street to ask if they can give me a ride.