Michelle Sagara

Hm. My experience is that my levels of what is Acceptable Rhetorical Violence vary massively across contexts and individuals; in high school all my friends were sports-playing guys (or at least a good deal more athletic than I) and tomboyish girls, and when I got to college I knew some people who were really seriously offended or worried by what I considered casual roughhousing. So, y'know, my gut says that this is fine and that it's silly even to worry about it, my social phobia says back the hell off until you know the person somewhat better, and I don't quite know which is the more rational response.