He always wants to be in my lap and sometimes I just feel like screaming at him to stop touching me. I think that by your words you are a way better parent then I am.
Please, please don't use anything I've written about my own son's childhood to beat yourself up. Please. Bits and pieces of society and extended family will no doubt be standing in the wings to do that for you.
I may have mentioned in point 6. that I didn't enjoy being touched by strangers. In real life I am not a very huggy-touchy person and I could not put my son down until he could crawl. It terrified him; he could scream for hours from the time he was a week old.
We had a lot of parental help (my parents, my son's godfather), and they all took turns holding, carrying, sleeping with baby on their chest. They gave me a break. But at the end of a day? I would hand my infant to my husband the minute he walked in the door and hide in my quiet room for half an hour. Or longer.
I'm trying to post things that I think might be helpful for some people in similar situations -- but all children are different; our children are not the sum of their various diagnoses.
You are the only other person, btw, who's ever said their child has the same touch-craving that mine had; a lot of ASD children are polar opposite and distinctly dislike being touched too much.
My son had serial obsessions, though--Age of Empires was big when he was finishing senior kindergarten. Souls in the System was big before then. And, ummm, doom. He did love the Putt-Putt kids games, though. (My husband hated hated hated the Doom thing, but we had a demo CD of old mac games and we went through it sequentially, and.)
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Date: 2010-10-14 11:56 pm (UTC)Please, please don't use anything I've written about my own son's childhood to beat yourself up. Please. Bits and pieces of society and extended family will no doubt be standing in the wings to do that for you.
I may have mentioned in point 6. that I didn't enjoy being touched by strangers. In real life I am not a very huggy-touchy person and I could not put my son down until he could crawl. It terrified him; he could scream for hours from the time he was a week old.
We had a lot of parental help (my parents, my son's godfather), and they all took turns holding, carrying, sleeping with baby on their chest. They gave me a break. But at the end of a day? I would hand my infant to my husband the minute he walked in the door and hide in my quiet room for half an hour. Or longer.
I'm trying to post things that I think might be helpful for some people in similar situations -- but all children are different; our children are not the sum of their various diagnoses.
You are the only other person, btw, who's ever said their child has the same touch-craving that mine had; a lot of ASD children are polar opposite and distinctly dislike being touched too much.
My son had serial obsessions, though--Age of Empires was big when he was finishing senior kindergarten. Souls in the System was big before then. And, ummm, doom. He did love the Putt-Putt kids games, though. (My husband hated hated hated the Doom thing, but we had a demo CD of old mac games and we went through it sequentially, and.)