He is totally unwilling to talk about his feelings with me and will rarely do so with anyone else, either.
So was my son. In the early years, I don't think he understood the necessity for it. The only way I could get him to talk about his school day was to talk about my kindergarten experiences first. Sometimes that similarity of experience would draw him out and he'd then say "that happened to me, too," in his serious voice. When I suspected what was happening, I would -- I'm sorry to say -- fabricate my early experiences. Sometimes this worked, and sometimes it didn't -- but when it did, it was very helpful.
And being a single parent in this situation would be so very, very hard. I think I was about 85% able to understand and build a mental picture of the way my son's thought processes worked; my husband could fill in 10% (his was probably 75%, but there was overlap), and his godfather the other 5%.
There were a lot of adults in his early life, which of course made a huge difference.
And yes -- please feel free to link if you think it will be helpful to anyone there.
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Date: 2010-10-15 02:12 am (UTC)So was my son. In the early years, I don't think he understood the necessity for it. The only way I could get him to talk about his school day was to talk about my kindergarten experiences first. Sometimes that similarity of experience would draw him out and he'd then say "that happened to me, too," in his serious voice. When I suspected what was happening, I would -- I'm sorry to say -- fabricate my early experiences. Sometimes this worked, and sometimes it didn't -- but when it did, it was very helpful.
And being a single parent in this situation would be so very, very hard. I think I was about 85% able to understand and build a mental picture of the way my son's thought processes worked; my husband could fill in 10% (his was probably 75%, but there was overlap), and his godfather the other 5%.
There were a lot of adults in his early life, which of course made a huge difference.
And yes -- please feel free to link if you think it will be helpful to anyone there.