I haven’t seen that result in any sense of inferiority to their siblings. At least, not from an adult-observer perspective.
*raises hand.*
Anything I had wasn't mine, it was to be given to siblings if they wanted it. I wasn't supposed to ask for anything for myself because it took up resources better spent on my siblings. If my school uniforms were expensive, my mother told my sisters their dresses were cheaper than she wanted because she'd had to spend too much on me. I felt a lot of times like my only value was in caring for the siblings, and it didn't help that my parents did things like forget to come get me from school (and leave me wherever I was overnight once they realised I was missing!) because until they needed me for some chore, I might as well have been invisible. I know for a fact that I'm not alone in that, though my parents were ... extreme.
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Date: 2012-06-11 04:26 am (UTC)*raises hand.*
Anything I had wasn't mine, it was to be given to siblings if they wanted it. I wasn't supposed to ask for anything for myself because it took up resources better spent on my siblings. If my school uniforms were expensive, my mother told my sisters their dresses were cheaper than she wanted because she'd had to spend too much on me. I felt a lot of times like my only value was in caring for the siblings, and it didn't help that my parents did things like forget to come get me from school (and leave me wherever I was overnight once they realised I was missing!) because until they needed me for some chore, I might as well have been invisible. I know for a fact that I'm not alone in that, though my parents were ... extreme.